Hi Miss King, I am 23 years old. I know 23 is petty young and I probably shouldn't be feeling like this, but I feel really lonely. I was in a "situationship" for quite sometime and it ended about 7 months ago and I am still hurt. I feel like I should be over it and him by now, but he really broke my heart. I finally started talking back to guys again but nothing seems to go right. I'm just so tired of meeting the same old person. I'm not sure if it's something in me that is causing me to keep running around in circles but I am truly tired. I'm not ready to get married, but I am ready to stop playing games. I don't want to have sex, I'm actually a virgin and I am waiting until I get married. I guess I'm really just looking for some other advice other than it'll take time, and if you stop thinking about it then it will happen. I know both of these things are true but they don't help my hurting heart.
I can't move on
Dear "I Can't Move On"
2. There are real Kings are out there sis, but you must be in a place to receive them. If you want to move on, you have to OPEN your heart to new options. Accept that this old guy is not your King and start believing that you will get somebody so much better and worthy of you!
3. I think another reason why you can't move on is you keep putting him on this high pedestal. I've done this A LOT in the past. You start daydreaming and thinking to yourself, "Oh, he was so wonderful and nice. We were like best friends, I could tell him anything. Oh he was so encouraging and handsome. We had such good chemistry. Blah Blah Blah! Blah!" It is time for you to DELETE these thoughts. Anytime he comes on your mind, remind yourself of the HURT he put you through and why he is NOT the one, so you don't get those giddy butterflies. "Yes, he was so fine, but he made me feel so devalued when he *insert hurt example*".
I think its wonderful that you are a virgin and decided to save yourself. I commend you and have so much respect for your decision. It will be hard, especially in relationships, but know the right man will RESPECT your standards and won't try to derail you from them. Also, remind yourself that you are WORTH THE WAIT and God will certainly award you for your obedience to Him!
Have a wonderful day Queen! I hope this helped!
Miss T.N. King
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