Why I Left a Good Man: A Reminder to the Woman who's Tempted to Settle

I felt like the dumbest girl in the world.  The Universe presented me with a good man who pursued me endlessly (I will reference him as “Sean”).  Sean consistently courted me with respect and set marital intentions.  He was intelligent, attractive, successful and caring.  What differentiated him from some of the other guys I had been seeing was his level of commitment and certainty about me.  He told me from the beginning that he was going to marry me.  And to top it off, he would walk the walk when he talked the talk. Sean was good “on paper” and he treated me well.  Logically, it made sense to be with him.  However, deep down, I felt like something was missing and I couldn’t put my finger on it.

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An Open Letter to the Guy I Wanted

Everyone sees me, except you.  Everyone sees our potential, except you.  Everyone sees the sincerity of my heart, except you.  Till this day I'll never know why you were blinded to a love so obvious, consistent and pure.  Here you had a woman and close friend who's always had your back and would've done anything for you.  My loyalty had no expiration and my support was unwavering.  But despite me fitting the perfect mold of your ideal woman, you still didn't give us a real chance.

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Bye Ugly!!! Hello Beautiful..

Can I start this post by being flat out honest with you?  There have been days where I thought I was ugly.  I picked my face apart because I disliked some of my facial features—my nose looked weird sometimes and my bottom lip is slightly bigger than the top.  One eye seems more open than the other when I take pictures. My ears look like elves. I was so nitpicky.  I’ve even compared myself to other women, more so to admire them and belittle myself. “Her abs are perfect...  Her butt looks better than mine… Her nose is perfectly contoured.  Her hair texture looks prettier than mine…  Her skin is so smooth and flawless…”

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