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The Power in Telling a Man 'NO'

August 16, 2016 by Miss T.N. King in 'Sincerely KING' Blog, Uncategorized

"NO" is one of the most powerful, yet underused words in the dictionary.  Perhaps you were once like me, a "yes woman".  You go out your way to make others happy; you're overly accommodating.  Sometimes you find yourself biting off more than you can chew.  You try to please everyone, even at the risk of inconveniencing yourself.  You prove your loyalty and support by always being there and saying "yes".   You rarely say NO and the few times you say it, it would always be followed by the word "but".  "No, BUT...*insert another way to overextend yourself*."

I don't know about you, but it seemed like the more I said "yes", the more I was taken for granted.  I turned into a doormat.  I felt powerless and unappreciated.  I went from being the priority to the option.  I was served grade A shit on a silver platter and expected to eat it (unfortunately, some days I did).  And like a dusty pair of flared jeans from '07, I was just hanging in the closet waiting for him to put me on.  Eventually I grew courage and developed the strength to say NO--sometimes HELL NO if I was really fed up.  Then something magical happened: I was able to reclaim my power.

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August 16, 2016 /Miss T.N. King
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What to Do When Your Dreams Reject You

May 13, 2016 by Miss T.N. King in 'Sincerely KING' Blog, Uncategorized

For those who follow me on social media know that I recently accepted a new job at my dream company and will be relocating to my dream city, NYC.  However, you didn't know that before these dreams were manifested, I was rejected not once but twice from my dream company.  My faith in God was constantly tested.  I almost gave up on everything.  Oh, and I went to bed numerous times feeling confused, disappointed, and frustrated.  I've been working in my career field for more than a year and a half.  I didn't know that climbing up the totem pole would be a rigorous journey.  Society makes it seem like once your foot is finally in the door (aka once you finally get a job), you can smoothly sail to the top.  That's a lie.  Truth is, the struggle never ends even after you get a job.  In this post, I want to be very transparent about my rocky journey and how I still became victorious after experiencing rejection from my dreams.  This is my story. I remember it like it was yesterday when they flew me out for my first interview.  Everything felt so right.  The people, the culture, the city--I knew in my heart this company was for me.  In fact, in my personal journal I declared that this year I would gain employment with this specific company, relocate to NYC, and triple my compensation.

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May 13, 2016 /Miss T.N. King
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Sex & Situationships

February 23, 2016 by Miss T.N. King in 'Sincerely KING' Blog, Uncategorized

Fighting sexual temptation is not easy at all.  I've been doing it for almost 4 years.  Though it's been a challenge and struggle at times, it's been a huge blessing for me.  I can't think of a man that I regret not having sex with.  When I look back on all the men I've dated these past few years, I don't think "Geez!  I should've had sex with him.  I made a huge mistake not giving him my body & making him 'another number'!"   At the end of the day, when the "honeymoon phase" was over, I was able to see their true colors loud and clear.  Withholding sex gave me better judgement and as a result it was easier for me to walk away from peasants.  Now please don't get it twisted.  I'm human--I get urges & have desires.

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February 23, 2016 /Miss T.N. King
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PSA: Stop Forcing Relationships & Chasing Men

January 04, 2016 by Miss T.N. King in 'Sincerely KING' Blog, Uncategorized

Can't get over that man who seemed "so perfect" for you?  Are you too busy trying to re-open doors that God already closed?  Do you find yourself pursuing him and putting in too much effort?  Do you struggle with letting go and going separate ways with someone you cared about?

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January 04, 2016 /Miss T.N. King
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SHUT UP ASKING FOR YOUR HUSBAND!!!

August 25, 2015 by Miss T.N. King in 'Sincerely KING' Blog

Yes ladies I said it: SHUT UP ASKING FOR YOUR HUSBAND!  I used to be one of those pathetic women praying dearly every night for God to send me my husband.  "Oh God, when are you going to send him?!"  I used to spend so many nights fantasizing about my happily ever after.  I've spent nights crying in frustration because I got tired of dating those who I already knew weren't "the one" deep down. But then one day, I got tired of complaining.  I got tired of waiting.  I got tired of having the same old sorry, repetitive prayer to God!  I decided to SHUT THE HECK UP AND ENJOY MY LIFE!

There's more to life than marrying a man!  Shocking right?!  Yes!  I know society places big emphasis on a woman's relationship status.  If a woman is not married by 30, she's automatically "weird".  Something must be wrong with her!  After all, a man's opinion of you and decision to offer you a commitment determines your self-worth.  THAT'S A LIE! (For those who can't sense my sarcasm).

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August 25, 2015 /Miss T.N. King
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The New Side Chick Part III: Why I Can't Trust Good Men

March 30, 2015 by Miss T.N. King in 'Sincerely KING' Blog, Break Ups, empowerment, lifestyle, love, Relationships, women

In "The 'New Side Chick': I was Her", I introduced a new role a lot of women play to men who aren't seriously interested in them.  In "The New Side Chick Part II: But I Can't Leave Him...", I discussed how to leave those unhealthy, loveless relationships/situationships.  But then what?!  You find your knight in shining armor and live happily ever after? Ha! I wish that was the case.  I have to be honest with you:  It's been about 8 months since cutting my ties with Jake, and I am still not fully healed. I've become too guarded over my heart.  I began to see every man who does not immediately commit to me as a potential Jake.  I wouldn't allow myself to really open up and be vulnerable with another guy, no matter how good they were, because in my mind, they would eventually hurt me.  I developed a fear of becoming The New Side Chick again. Often times when we end relationships/situationships, we just leave the title and the person.  However, the heartache and blockades around our hearts follow us.

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March 30, 2015 /Miss T.N. King
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Are You 'SEXmatized'?

February 13, 2015 by Miss T.N. King in 'Sincerely KING' Blog, christian, empowerment, intimacy, love, Relationships, sex, women

Are you easily controlled by sex or are you easily in control of sex? Every day I see a growing amount of men and women becoming controlled by sex or “sexmatized”--the state of letting sex or the idea of having it control your life through your decisions, emotions & standards. Most people have been sexmatized at least once in their life. Below are some common, but not all, sexmatized symptoms:

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February 13, 2015 /Miss T.N. King
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Where is My #MCE?!?!

December 21, 2014 by Miss T.N. King in 'Sincerely KING' Blog, advice, christian, empowerment, faith, friendship, inspirational, life, love, motivation, reflection, Relationships, Romance, self help, women, young adult

Every Monday, social media timelines are flooded with women posting pictures of the men they adore with the hash tag #MCM ("Man Crush Monday").  Those who are in relationships, engaged or married usually post a picture of their man with the hashtag #MCE ("Man Crush Everyday"), which signifies that this is the person they are crushing on 24/7. I've been single for the past 2 1/2 years and never partook in #MCM/#MCE.  It's not that I didn't want to participate; I just wasn't in an official relationship with anyone. (Side note: I don't believe in publicly broadcasting someone I am just "talking" to.)

However, every week it seemed as if someone new revealed their #MCE.  Everyone around me was getting in new relationships, engaged, or married.  Meanwhile, I was still single.  I became upset because it seemed like all of the women who were getting "cuffed" lacked quality and substance.

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December 21, 2014 /Miss T.N. King
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