Why I Left a Good Man: A Reminder to the Woman who's Tempted to Settle

I felt like the dumbest girl in the world.  The Universe presented me with a good man who pursued me endlessly (I will reference him as “Sean”).  Sean consistently courted me with respect and set marital intentions.  He was intelligent, attractive, successful and caring.  What differentiated him from some of the other guys I had been seeing was his level of commitment and certainty about me.  He told me from the beginning that he was going to marry me.  And to top it off, he would walk the walk when he talked the talk. Sean was good “on paper” and he treated me well.  Logically, it made sense to be with him.  However, deep down, I felt like something was missing and I couldn’t put my finger on it.

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How I Broke My Situationship Curse

"Sometimes in life, your situation will keep repeating itself until you've learned your lesson."

I remember feeling shocked and disappointed as I was reading my diary entries from more than a year ago.  Here I was still dealing with the same mess--situationships.  More specifically, I kept falling for men who were emotionally unavailable to me.  One minute we would be super close then the next minute they were "too busy" (cycle repeats).  I found myself on the same emotional roller coaster, going back and forth between telling myself "we're just friends" to wondering "what are we?".  I think one of the main reasons good quality Queens foolishly remain in situationships is the idea of "what if".

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An Open Letter to the Guy I Wanted

Everyone sees me, except you.  Everyone sees our potential, except you.  Everyone sees the sincerity of my heart, except you.  Till this day I'll never know why you were blinded to a love so obvious, consistent and pure.  Here you had a woman and close friend who's always had your back and would've done anything for you.  My loyalty had no expiration and my support was unwavering.  But despite me fitting the perfect mold of your ideal woman, you still didn't give us a real chance.

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